Dị Ndụ, Lovehụnanya, Ọchị

Na-atụgharị ucheAnọ m na-eme ọtụtụ echiche n'oge na-adịbeghị anya ma soro nwa m na-ede uri na ndụ, ịzụ ụmụ, ọrụ, mmekọrịta, wdg. Ndụ na-abịakwute gị na nkebi ma a manyere gị ime mkpebi ndị ị na-achọghị.

Nkeji nke 1: Alụmdi na nwunye

Ihe dị ka afọ 8 gara aga ọ bụ alụkwaghịm m. Ekwesịrị m ịchọpụta ma m̀ ga-arụli nna m ma ọ bụ na ọ bụghị. Ahọrọ m nke abụọ n'ihi na enweghị m ike ibi na-enweghị ụmụ m.

N’oge a gbara alụkwaghịm, m kwesịrị ịchọpụta ụdị nwoke m ga-abụ. M ga - abụ di di iwe na-adọkpụrụ nna ya na ụlọ ikpe, na - ekwujọ ihe ọ na - emebu n’ebe ụmụ ya nọ, ka m ga - enweta ngọzi inwe ụmụ m ma were ụzọ dị elu. Ekwenyere m na m weere okporo ụzọ ahụ dị elu. M ka na-agwa nwunye m okwu oge ụfọdụ na-ekpekwa ekpere maka ezinụlọ ya n'oge ụfọdụ m maara na ha na-agba mgba. Nke bụ eziokwu bụ, ọ na-ewe obere ike n'ụzọ dị otu a ma ụmụaka m aka ya mma.

Nkeji 2: Oru

N'ebe m na-arụ ọrụ, m na-emekwa mkpebi. Ahapụrụ m ihe karịrị nnukwu ọrụ ole na ole gara aga n’ime afọ iri gara aga. Ahapụrụ m otu n’ihi na amaara m na agaghị m abụ ihe ọga m chọrọ ka m bụrụ. Ahapụrụ m nke ọzọ n’oge na-adịbeghị anya n’ihi na anaghị m emezu n’onwe m. Anọ m na kediegwu oru ugbu a nke ahụ na-ama m aka kwa ụbọchị… mana enwere m ezi uche na m nwere ike ghara ịnọ ebe a afọ iri site ugbu a, ma.

Ọ bụghị na m nwere obi abụọ, ọ bụ naanị na m nwere ntụsara ahụ na 'niche' na ahịa na teknụzụ. Ọ na-amasị m ịmegharị ngwa ngwa na ọrụ. Mgbe ihe jiri nwayọọ na ụlọ ọrụ chọrọ nkà ndị ahụ na-enweghị mmasị m, achọpụtara m na oge eruola ịkwaga (n'ime ma ọ bụ n'èzí). Achọpụtala m na ọ bụrụ na m na-arụ ọrụ m, m na-enwe ezigbo obi ụtọ karịa mgbe m na-echegbu onwe m banyere adịghị ike m.

Nkeji 3: Ezinaụlọ

Ana m abịaru 40 nso ugbu a ma abịaruola ndụ m ebe m ga-eme mkpebi na mmekọrịta mụ na ya. N'oge gara aga, etinyewo m ume dị ukwuu na inwe ezinụlọ 'na-etu m ọnụ'. N'ọtụtụ ụzọ, echiche ha dị mkpa karịa nke m. Ka oge na-aga, achọpụtara m na ha tụrụ ihe ịga nke ọma dị iche na nke m tụtụworo.

Ihe na-egosi ihe na-eme ka m nwee ọ successụ bụ site na ọ happinessụ ụmụ m nwere, ezigbo ọyị na ọnụọgụ ndị enyi m nwere, ndị mụ na ha na-akpakọrịta, nsọpụrụ m na-enweta n’ebe ọrụ, na ngwaahịa na ọrụ m na-eweta kwa ụbọchị. Nwere ike ịchọpụta na aha, aha ma ọ bụ akụ na-anọghị ebe ahụ. Ha abụghị, ha agaghịkwa adị.

N'ihi ya, mkpebi m bụ ịhapụ ndị na-achọ ịdọkpụrụ m kama ibuli m. Ana m asọpụrụ, hụrụ ha n'anya ma na-ekpekwa ekpere maka ha, mana agaghị m etinye ike na-achọ ime ka ha nwee obi ụtọ ọzọ. Ọ bụrụ na emeghị m nke ọma na echiche ha, ha nwere ike idebe echiche ha. Abụ m kpatara m obi ụtọ ha kwesịrị ịnara ibu ọrụ maka nke ha.

Dika nna, enwerem obi uto banyere ndi umuaka m no ugbu a, ana m ahukwa ha n’anya n’enweghi nsogbu. Mkparịta ụka anyị kwa ụbọchị na-ekwu maka ihe ha mere nke ọma, ọ bụghị na ọdịda ha. Nke ahụ kwuru, M na-esiri ụmụ m ike ma ọ bụrụ na ha anaghị ebi ndụ dị ka ikike ha nwere, n'agbanyeghị.

Nwa m nwanyị akara ule dabara nke ọma n'izu gara aga. Echere m na ihe ka n'ọnụ ọgụgụ n'ime ya bụ na mmekọrịta ọhaneze abụrụla ihe dị mkpa karịa ọrụ ụlọ akwụkwọ ya. O wutere ya mgbe o ruru akara ugodi. Ọ na-ebe ákwá ụbọchị niile n'ihi na ọ bụ nwata akwụkwọ A / B. Ọ bụghị otú o si wute m na nke ahụ pụtara, ọ bụ otu o wutere.

Katie nwere mmasị na-eduga na klas ma kpọọ asị ịnọ na ala. Anyị mere ụfọdụ mgbanwe - enweghị ndị enyi bịara ileta anyị kwa izu ma ọ bụ mee etemeete. Mee-elu bụ ihe siri ike… Echere m na ọ ga-agba oghere n'ime m na nku anya ya. Otú ọ dị, n'ime izu ahụ, akara ule ya amalitela. Ọ naghị ere ọkụ n’oghere m ọzọ, ọbụnakwa chịrị m ọchị n’ụbọchị ọzọ n’ime ụgbọ ala.

Ọ bụ ọrụ siri ike dị elu, mana m na-eme ike m niile iji mesie ihe dị mma, ọ bụghị na-adịghị mma. Ana m agbalị iduzi ha n’oké osimiri mara mma, na-echetaghị ha mgbe nile banyere oké ifufe dị n’azụ ha.

Dika umuaka m si enwe obi iru ala na ndi ha bu, obi na ato m uto onye ha bu. Ha na-eju m anya kwa ụbọchị. Enwere m ụmụaka na-enweghị atụ… mana enweghị m nghọtahie ọ bụla gbasara onye 'Echere m na ha kwesịrị ịbụ' ma ọ bụ 'otu ha kwesiri isi mee'. Nke ahụ bụ ka ha chọpụta. Ọ bụrụ na ha na-enwe obi ụtọ na onwe ha, ha direction na ndụ, na m… mgbe ahụ, m obi ụtọ n'ihi na ha. Bestzọ kacha mma m ga-esi akụziri ha ihe bụ igosi ha otú m si akpa àgwà. Buddha kwuru, sị, "Onye ọ bụla nke hụrụ m na-ahụ nkuzi m." Enweghị m ike ikwenye karịa.

Nkeji 4: Ọ Joụ

Echetara m a comment obere oge laghachi na ezigbo 'ezigbo enyi', William onye jụrụ, "Gini mere Ndị Kraịst ji aghapụtakarị onwe ha?". Agaghị m aza ajụjụ ahụ n'ihi na m ga-eche ọtụtụ ihe banyere ya. O kwuru eziokwu. Ọtụtụ Ndị Kraịst na-ekwuwapụta onye ha bụ site 'n'omume' karịa gị. William nwere ikike ọ bụla ịma aka ndị a. Ọ bụrụ na ị tinye onwe gị na ntọala, dị njikere ịza ihe kpatara ị nọ ebe ahụ!

Achọrọ m ka ndị mmadụ mata na m bụ Onye Kraịst - ọ bụghị maka na ọ bụ onye m bụ kama ọ bụ onye m nwere olile anya ịbụ otu ụbọchị. Achọrọ m enyemaka na ndụ m. Achọrọ m ịbụ onye obiọma. Achọrọ m ka ndị enyi m mata m dị ka onye nwere ọmịiko, mụmụrụ ọnụ ọchị, ma ọ bụ kpalite ha ime ihe dị iche na ndụ ha. Ka m na-arụ ọrụ na-arụ ọrụ na onye isi ike ma ọ bụ ahụhụ m na-edozi na gburugburu, ọ dịịrị m mfe ichefu nnukwu foto ma kwuo okwu ole na ole. Ọ dịịrị m mfe iwesa ndị ụlọ ọrụ na-enye m nsogbu.

Echiche m (pere mpe) banyere nkuzi m kwenyere na-agwa m na ndị ahụ na ụlọ ọrụ ọzọ ahụ nwere ike na-arụsi ọrụ ike, nwee nsogbu ndị ha na-achọ imeri, ma ha kwesịrị ndidi na nkwanye ùgwù m. Ọ bụrụ na m agwa gị na m bụ Onye Kraịst, ọ ga-emepe emepe m maka nkatọ mgbe m bụ onye ihu abụọ. Abụm onye ihu abụọ (oge ụfọdụ) yabụ nweere onwe m ime ka m mara na abụghị m ezigbo Onye Kraịst, ọbụlagodi ma ọ bụrụ na ịnweghị otu nkwenye m.

Ọ bụrụ na m nwere ike ịkọwa ọkwa nke anọ, m ga-ahapụ ụwa a onye nwere ezigbo obi ụtọ. Ama m na aga m enweta ezigbo ọ joyụ… Ahụla m ụdị ọ joyụ ahụ na ndị ọzọ ma achọrọ m ya n'onwe m. My okwukwe na-agwa m na nke a bụ ihe Chineke chọrọ ka m nwere. Amaara m na ọ bụ ihe dịịrị maka ịnara ya, mana ọ na-esiri ike ịhapụ omume ọjọọ ma gbanwee obi anyị. Aga m anọgide na-arụ ọrụ na ya.

Echere m na nke a abụghị oke gushy maka post gị. Achọrọ m ikwu ntakịrị ihe gbasara nsogbu ezinụlọ m na idepụta ederede na-enyere m aka nke ukwuu. Ikekwe ọ ga-enyere gị aka!

13 Comments

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    OZI post! Ọ na-amasịkwa m ịmata na ọ bụghị naanị m bụ nne na nna na-ata ahụhụ site n’iwepụ ihe ntecha. Nwa m nwanyị na eyeliner bụ ezigbo enyi ya. Ọ bụ ihe ịtụnanya na etu o si “enweta ya” ọsịsọ mgbe anaghị anabata ya. 🙂

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      Eyeliner is the father-of-a-13-year-old’s enemy. 🙂

      I think make-up is a slippery slope. I’ve never been a fan of a lot of make-up and my theory is that women use more and more because they get desensitized to how beautiful they really are. So… if you’re 13, you wind up looking like a Picasso by the time you’re 30.

      Site na ezumike etemeete, ana m enwe olileanya na Katie ga-ahụ otu o si maa mma ma jiri obere oge mechaa.

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        Ekwenyere m. Agbanyeghi na nwa m nwanyi ihe nlere n’ile abiala nke oma n’abali a ka m na akwado maka emume Heartland Film Festival Crystal Heart Awards. O kwupụtara na m 'emeghị ya nke ọma' wee gaa n'ihu jupụta n'anya m. Ee, abughi m onye na-achọ etemeete, ọkachasị b / c achọghị m itinye oge na ya. Ọtụtụ ụmụ nwanyị ndị tinyere ya trowel kwesịrị ịkwụsị b / c ha mara ezigbo mma n'okpuru. Bụ ezigbo nna n’ịgbalị ịkụziri nwa gị nwanyị ihe ịma mma bụ n’ezie.

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    Chei, lee post Doug! Àgwà gị masịrị m nke ukwuu.

    Know mara, enwere nnukwu ndozi n'etiti Iso Christianityzọ Kraịst na Islam ma a bịa n'ihe gbasara ezinụlọ na mmekọrịta mmadụ na ibe ya. Otutu ihe ikwuru na ikwere na-egosi otutu nkuzi ndi Islam. Ọ bụ ihe ọchị na mgbe ụfọdụ ndị na-abụghị Mulsims dị ka gị na-arụ ọrụ ka mma nke igosipụta ụkpụrụ Alakụba karịa ụfọdụ ndị Alakụba na-ekwu okwu.

    Ya mere, maka nke a, ana m ekele gị! Nọgide na-enwe àgwà ziri ezi. A bu ezigbo onye na - ede blọgụ, ma ijide n’aka dịka oku ala mmụọ dị ka hel nke nna.

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      Daalụ AL,

      It’s funny you say that. I have read the Qur’an and have some friends that are Islamic. Every time we get together we find so much in common between our religions. Thanks for your compliments as well – I don’t think I’m as a good a parent as I could be, but I am trying!

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    Ndoo ikwu ya, mana post a ka m na-arụ ụka ma m ga-ewepu aha ma ọ bụ na ọ bụghị - maka ihe ole na ole:

    1. Nke a bụ blog banyere ahịa (ma ọ bụ nke ahụ bụ echiche m). Ọ bụ ezie na ọ dị mma ịgbakwunye mmadụ na ịma mma banyere nkwenkwe gị, ogologo oge gbasara okpukpe gbanwere m.

    Ekwela ka m mehie; okpukpe dị mma ma ana m akwanyere nkwenkwe gị ùgwù. Mana okpukperechi bụ nke onwe, echeghị m na ọ nwere ebe ọ bụla na azụmaahịa azụmahịa. Ọ bụrụ na m chọrọ ịgụ gbasara okpukperechi, m ga-edebanye aha na blọọgụ nwere echiche okpukpe.

    2. Writde ihe banyere nwatakịrị nwanyị nọ n'afọ iri na ụma na-ebe ákwá ụbọchị niile maka akara ule na-adịghị mma na-eme ka m nwee ọrịa afọ m. Nwatakịrị ahụ adịghị emechu ihu, ọ ga-abụ na ụjọ na-atụ ya maka mmeghachi omume gị!

    3. Ide ihe banyere inye nwatakiri ntaramahụhụ maka akara ọjọọ mgbe ọ kwara ákwá ụbọchị niile (nke na-abụghị ezigbo mmeghachi omume nwata nwanyị) na-eme ka m nwee ọrịa. Na-ata mmadụ ahụhụ mgbe ha mere ihe ọjọọ, echekwala ya. Mana mgbe mmadụ mere nhọrọ na-adịghị mma, chọpụta ya, mụta ihe na ya ma dị njikere ime nke ọma n'oge ọzọ, hapụ ya na nke ahụ. Hapụ nwa agbọghọ ahụ obi ike. Kwe ka o mee nke ọma n'ihi na ọ chọrọ - ọ bụghị n'ihi na ụjọ na-atụ ya maka ntaramahụhụ.

    M na-asọpụrụ na ị nwere ike ma ọ bụ na ị gaghị ekwenye na m. Echere m na ị ga-achọ ịma ihe kpatara nke a blog post Agbaghara akara kpamkpam na m.

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      Hi James,

      Thanks for taking the time to write. If you feel compelled to unsubscribe, I’d be sorry to see you go but I’m okay with that. This is not a corporate blog, it’s a personal one. As such, I advise my readers on my craft but I’m also transparent in relaying my beliefs with my readers.

      Over time, I’ve become great friends with readers of my blog – mostly in part to the fact that I share both my work and my life with my readers. I do; however, keep my personal posts in my “Homefront” category so that you can avoid reading them if you’d like.

      I respect your opinion on what happened with my daughter as well. My daughter isn’t locked up anywhere :), she has quite a setup… cell phone, mp3 player, computer, television, etc. so she’s hardly ‘punished’ although taking away makeup was what gave her a hard time. I can guarantee you that she is not afraid of me. She may get upset if she thinks she disappointed me, but I’ve never given Katie a reason to be ‘scared’.

      I’m not so sure, at 13, I should have ever allowed her to put on makeup but she’s a good girl with good grades and a great attitude – so I try to give her the freedom she wants. When she shows me she can handle it, I never put boundaries on her. If you’re a parent, you know how difficult these situations are.

      I hope you stick around and get to know me! There’s good info on this blog and I love to share what I learn in the industry.

      Cheers,
      Doug

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    Mara mma, Doug. Enwere m blog azụmahịa yana otu akpọrọ "Personal Ramblings" maka otu ụdị ihe ahụ. Ntọala saịtị ahụ na mkpuchi ya enyerela m n'echiche na ọ bụ blọọgụ azụmahịa siri ike.

    Ahụrụ m onwe m n'ọnọdụ dị egwu na ịntanetị. Abụ m onye Canada, ọdịbendị anyị na-agbakarị jụụ banyere okpukpe karịa ndị agbata obi anyị America, ọtụtụ n'ime ha bụ ndị na-emebiga ihe ókè (n'echiche m, anaghị m asị na ị bụ onye isi ike). Ana m akwanyere nkwenkwe ndị mmadụ ùgwù ma nwee nke m, enweghị m mmasị na iri nri.

    O di nwute, na extremism emewo ka m kpachara anya nke ibu akwukwo-thump, na m radar maka abata thump yiri ka a ga-etinye na elu uche. Yabụ ọ bụrụ na agaghị m akụtu ebe a, m ga-arapara n'ahụ. Ezigbo azụmahịa?

    Banyere ụmụ nwanyị… Ọ dị mma ịnụ na ị ghọtara afọ iri na ụma chọrọ nnwere onwe ahụ, na ekele maka ikpochapụ nke ahụ. Ekwenyesiri m ike na ihe nkedo ahụ ga-eme, ka nsogbu ndị nne na nna na-etinye onwe ha maka. Anaghị m “enweta” ndị nne na nna na-ejikarị aka ike azụ ụmụ ha. Ọ bụghị azịza ya.

    Na… Enwere m afọ 14 na nwatakịrị n'onwe m, n'ihi ya enwere m ike ịghọta nsogbu nke ịzụ ụmụ na ike nke etemeete.

    Thanks again for your response. I had a bit (okay a lot) of a knee-jerk reaction to the post, so to share a little about me so you don’t think I’m a complete ass, read up on my post about knee-jerk reactions.

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      We Americans like to shove everything in everyone’s face – war, wealth, technology, music, religion… you name it and we’re proud of how bad we mess it up! When one of us is sincere, it’s difficult to take us serious.

      I lived in Vancouver for 6 years, graduating from High School there. In fact, my Mom’s side of the family are all Canadian. My grandfather is a retired officer from the Canadian forces. I’m a huge fan of Canada and can still sing the anthem (in English, I forgot the French version). My mother is Quebecois, born and raised in Montreal.

      M na-egwu egwuregwu na ụmụ akwụkwọ sekọndrị m na America enweghị ike ịjụ maka toque ka mma karịa Canada!

      Daalụ maka ezi uche ị zara… Ọ dịghị mgbe m were ya n'ụzọ ahụ ma ọlị.

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